Eh. This didn't sit right with me. I was on board with the mutiny until Dawn told Buffy to get the hell out. That pretty much came out of nowhere.
I adored the Spike-Andrew interaction, but I so wanted Andrew to be there when Xander came home. Andrewsunrquitedloveissopure.
I don't have anything insightful to say, so I will proceed to my rant about the inscription.
The inscription is not Greek. It is Latin written in Greek characters. I kept getting distracted during that scene because I'd see "NON" and think, OK, Latin, and then see sigmas and lambdas in the lines below.
I don't think there's any way to get the gender "for her" from the Latin. This is the inscription as I was able to copy it down from my shaky freeze-frame:
Non tibi est. Ei sol(l)i tractare licet.
"It is not for you. He/she only is permitted to touch/handle/wield."
Both "ei" and "soli" are in the dative so the male and female forms are identical. Without any more context, there's no way to tell.
Except I guess the context is this is Buffy the Vampire Slayer.
I'm such a geek. Shun me.